Bullies

Aug 5, 2025
11 min read

Updated: Jan 2

Bullies are the 👿

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What is considered being a bully?

Bullying can show up in different ways: physical, verbal, social, and online. It's when someone with more power keeps picking on or threatening someone else, causing them emotional or physical pain. This often makes the person being bullied feel scared and helpless.

Bullying can be as simple as name-calling and spreading rumors or as serious as physical attacks and leaving someone out on purpose. It creates a toxic atmosphere that messes with mental and emotional well-being. Spotting bullying is key to tackling it in schools, workplaces, and communities, and building a culture ready to fight back.

This post will share personal stories about bullying to show how it affects both the victim and the bully. Bullying can leave deep emotional scars, messing with self-esteem, relationships, and mental health, and sometimes leading to anxiety and depression.

It's super important to spot signs of bullying and create a vibe of empathy, kindness, and respect. This takes teamwork from students, teachers, parents, and community members to boost understanding and compassion. By talking about bullying's effects and encouraging people to speak up, we can work towards a future where everyone feels safe and valued, breaking the cycle of abuse and promoting inclusivity and respect.

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My Children Will NOT be Bullies

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I'm really worried about bullying and would be pretty upset if my kid got involved in it. It's super important to me to teach my kids about compassion, empathy, and respect because these values are key to a peaceful society. Luckily, we haven't had many issues, probably because we talk openly about how serious this behavior is, which helps keep it in check. I make it clear that bullying is a big breach of trust and morals, and it should have firm consequences.

Accountability is crucial for personal growth, and I try to create a safe space for my kids to express themselves. They need to understand how their actions affect others, especially those who are vulnerable. By promoting empathy and sharing stories of people affected by bullying, I hope to encourage kindness and understanding. Tackling bullying needs everyone to pitch in—parents, teachers, and the whole community. This means having conversations in schools, backing anti-bullying programs, and encouraging kids to support each other, creating a culture of diversity and inclusivity where every child feels valued and respected.

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Bully Stories

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Talking about how we've dealt with bullying can really inspire and motivate others. Whether you’ve been bullied, seen it happen, or were a bully who changed for the better, your story matters. It helps us get a grip on this issue that touches people of all ages and backgrounds.

When former bullies share how they've grown, it shows that empathy and change are possible. Understanding why bullying happens—like feeling insecure or wanting power—can help stop it and support those affected. These stories teach us to learn from our mistakes and work towards a kinder society.

By sharing, we create a supportive community for those dealing with bullying. Each story gives others strength and promotes a culture of respect and kindness, encouraging everyone to take a stand against bullying.

Talking about different kinds of bullying—physical, verbal, social, and cyber—and how they affect mental health helps us get a clearer picture of the issue. Looking into how schools, parents, and communities can tackle bullying leads to real solutions. Education, awareness, and intervention programs can cut down on bullying and make spaces safer.

In the end, sharing our experiences helps with personal healing and builds understanding, encouraging conversations, empathy, and collective action to fight bullying and create a more compassionate culture.

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Bullying isn’t a New Age Thing

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When I was a kid, I got bullied a lot, and those memories still stick with me. I can remember incidents from almost every grade, each one a painful reminder of what I went through. The teasing, being left out, and feeling lonely were always there. Now, when my kids talk about bullying, I really get it, seeing the cycle and thinking of others who went through the same stuff.

With this blog, I want to create a supportive community where people can share their bullying stories. It's so important for those who've been bullied to know they're not alone. By sharing our experiences, we can break the silence and stigma around bullying and offer comfort to those affected. Hopefully, both past and present bullies will read these stories to understand the emotional scars and the impact on mental health, helping to build empathy and awareness. These stories highlight why kindness and compassion matter so much.

I also suggest checking out my post “Mental Health Matters,” which dives into how bullying affects mental health, its signs, and long-term effects. By mixing personal stories with mental health insights, we can get a better grip on the issue and work towards a more inclusive environment for everyone.

## First grade. The asshole story.

Back in first grade, amidst the usual school chaos, a girl and I got into a silly argument over who should be first in line or what game to play. At that age, small disagreements felt like a big deal. Annoyed by her attitude, I impulsively wrote her a note calling her an "asshole," thinking it would make me feel better. She showed it to our teacher, who instantly looked serious. My heart dropped as I realized I was in trouble.

The teacher told the principal, and I felt doomed as I walked to the principal's office. The principal, known for being strict, called my mom, and I was more scared of her reaction than any punishment from school. My mom had high standards and didn't tolerate disrespect.

The note cast a shadow over my day, teaching me that actions have consequences. It was a tough lesson in how powerful words can be and how they affect relationships. This experience taught me about empathy and the complexities of human interaction, lessons that went beyond the classroom.

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## Forth grade: The Family Dynamic Game

Back in fourth grade, there was this group of girls everyone called the "beautiful" girls, and they were a big deal, even to those of us not in their crew. They had this charm and magnetism that made them the center of attention, forming a tight-knit and influential group that really shaped how things went in class. They'd play these family roles, calling each other daughter, sister, or auntie, which showed how close they were. The closer you were, the cooler the title you got.

Watching them, you could see they had this warm, welcoming vibe, but they were also super exclusive. "Auntie" was what they called people who weren't quite in the inner circle. Curious about how their group worked, I finally got the nerve to ask if I could join. Their answer was a letdown; they called me "grandma," which was a pretty clear way of saying I wasn't really part of the group. That label felt like a rejection, showing I wasn't truly welcome with them.

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## Fourth grade: Always the One Left Out

Halfway through fourth grade, I switched schools, and it was way harder than I thought it would be. At the new place, I had a tough time fitting in with kids who'd been friends since kindergarten. I felt like the odd one out, lonely and isolated as the "new kid." The cliques made me feel invisible, and I often wished I could be part of their group. Lunchtime was the worst; I'd sit alone, pretending to be busy but really just wanting to connect with someone.

One moment really sticks out, showing how frustrated and desperate I was. In class, feeling overwhelmed, I pressed the metal rings of my notebook into my arm, trying to show how much I was hurting and needed attention. I ended up shouting in anger, feeling exposed and misunderstood by my classmates, who probably just thought I was acting out instead of realizing I was asking for help.

Surprisingly, I don't remember getting into major trouble at home for this incident, unlike other times when I was punished for acting out. Maybe my mom was too busy to notice how I was feeling, which left me feeling even more lost.

Looking back on this, I see that I really needed support and understanding. It taught me how important empathy is because childhood experiences can leave a big mark. Now, I try to be kind and understanding to those who feel lost, knowing how much it can help someone going through tough times.

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## A Field Trip to Remember

So, my classmates and I were on this field trip that was supposed to be all fun and exciting. The sun was out, everyone was laughing as we strolled through the schoolyard. But I couldn't shake this feeling of being left out, which kind of ruined the fun for me. Trying to cope, I blurted out, “What are they, gay or something?” and immediately wished I hadn't. A parent overheard and told my teacher, and before I knew it, I was in the principal's office.

Sitting there, I felt tiny and helpless. When they asked about what I said, I lied, hoping to get out of it. The punishment was tough and left a mark on me. When I got home, my mom was furious. She spanked me, and I felt really exposed and vulnerable. She was more upset about what I said and that I lied, not really about how I was feeling.

I ended up feeling alone and misunderstood, all because I was left out by the girls I thought were my friends. This tough experience taught me a lot about friendship, acceptance, and how important words are. It really shaped how I see empathy and the need for kindness in a tough world.

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## 10th Grade: The New Girl

The summer between 9th and 10th grade was a big deal for me because I moved from a busy big city to a small town with just one high school. It was a huge change, and I really noticed how different everything was, from the lifestyle to the social scene. At first, being the "new girl" was exciting, but I also felt pressure to fit in. As time went on, the excitement faded, and I started to feel left out. During this time, I met a girl who was super pretty and had an amazing personality. We clicked because we were both new, and her popularity helped me climb the social ladder. I even started dating a guy from the baseball team, which made me feel more accepted. But things went south with my friend when she locked me out of my locker, and that was the beginning of the end of our friendship.

One day, she suggested we ditch school to visit her uncle, who had some booze. Wanting some adventure and to keep our friendship strong, I went along with it. The thrill of breaking the rules was pretty exciting, and we got back just before lunch to avoid getting caught. On our way back, we ran into a senior I had a crush on. She convinced him to join us, which made the day even more thrilling. We kept our little adventure a secret, even from my boyfriend, which led to some unexpected drama. This whole experience taught me that making impulsive choices when you're young can lead to some surprising and tough situations.

The walk to my uncle’s place was quicker than I thought—just a few blocks away. The air smelled like flowers and fresh grass, which was a nice surprise. My uncle's house was pretty basic, with old furniture and a stash of grain alcohol that caught my eye. Feeling a mix of nerves and curiosity, I tried alcohol for the first time, chasing the burn with Doritos. I quickly realized I’d overdone it. We ended up playing truth or dare, where I confessed I was a virgin. A dare put me in a situation I wasn’t ready for, leaving me with regret and shame.

Back at school, my boyfriend noticed the alcohol smell on me. I lied about what happened to dodge any judgment. The girl I was with didn’t hold back and talked about our crazy night, which got us suspended after a breathalyzer test. That punishment was a tough wake-up call about our bad decisions.

Grounded for two weeks, I turned to reading and writing poetry to sort out my feelings. Meanwhile, the girl spread false stories that messed up my reputation. When I returned to school, I realized I had lost friends and my boyfriend. Eventually, people figured out the truth, and some even apologized.

Though I never got back with my old friends, I found new ones who accepted me. The rest of my school time was more peaceful, but the experience left some emotional scars. Looking back on those weeks, I’m thankful for the resilience I built and how poetry helped me cope. Despite everything, I’m stronger and appreciate the lessons I learned.

## A Reflection on Choices and Consequences

I remember two girls from school who took different routes because of their choices and situations. One became a young mom and worked as a stripper, a choice she made out of necessity and a desire to be independent. Even though it was a controversial decision, it was about survival and expressing herself in a world with limited options. Her story shows how early choices can lead to unexpected journeys.

The second girl also became a mom while still in high school, juggling parenting with her studies. Despite the pressures and loneliness of being a young mom, she was determined and resilient, working hard to create a better future for herself and her child.

The third girl had a similar experience, becoming a young mom with two kids before she turned twenty. She chose stripping to support her family, a decision driven by financial struggles and the need to provide a better life for her kids. Her journey was all about empowerment and vulnerability, dealing with societal judgment while showing incredible resilience.

These stories show that life isn't always straightforward, and choices are shaped by personal circumstances. Instead of judging, we should empathize with their challenges and appreciate their strength in overcoming difficulties.

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Role of Bullies

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Bullies often try to control social situations, thinking it makes them look cooler, but it usually just hides their own insecurities. They might feel powerful for a bit, but bullying often leaves them feeling alone, anxious, and sorry for their actions, stuck in a loop of trying to regain lost status. On the flip side, those who get bullied often become more resilient and empathetic, which helps them grow and understand themselves and others better. They often turn into champions for kindness and create supportive communities. These experiences highlight how tricky growing up can be and show why empathy is so important, reminding us that every interaction shapes who we are. It's crucial to create spaces for open conversations and understanding to build a more inclusive society.

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Lists

Books 📚

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Songs 🎶

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Movies/Shows/Documentaries 🎥

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Bible verses about bullies 🙏

1 John 2:9 - Anyone who claims to be in the light but hates a brother or sister is still in the darkness.
1 John 2:10
1 John 3:15 - Anyone who hates a brother or sister is a murderer, and you know that no murderer has eternal life residing in him.
1 John 3:16
Ephesians 4: 22-24
Ephesians 4: 29 - Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.