Friendship
- Raven Ambrose
- Aug 9
- 37 min read
Updated: 3 days ago
The Family We Choose
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"Being a friend is among the best roles you can fulfill, and having a friend is one of the greatest experiences you can enjoy." —Sarah Valdez
Friendship is a deep and complex connection that really adds to our lives in so many ways. When you're a friend, it's not just about hanging out; it's about building a bond full of trust, support, and understanding. This kind of relationship lets you share your deepest thoughts, dreams, and fears without worrying about being judged. Being there for someone through their ups and downs gives you a sense of belonging that's crucial for feeling good emotionally.
Having a friend is more than just having someone to hang out with. It's about sharing experiences, laughter, and adventures. Friends often become like family, offering a support system that can be just as strong, if not stronger, than your actual family. Through shared memories—whether it's spontaneous outings, deep chats over coffee, or just enjoying each other's company in silence—friendship creates a collection of moments to treasure forever.
Friendships also push us to grow and change. Friends can give us helpful feedback, encourage us to try new things, and inspire us to chase our dreams. They introduce us to new ideas, cultures, and perspectives, expanding our view of the world. So, friendships aren't just about having someone to hang out with; they're also about personal growth and learning.
It's good to remember that friendships need a bit of effort and dedication. Keeping a strong friendship means talking, understanding each other, and sometimes even finding middle ground. Being willing to put in time and energy is what really helps these relationships grow. By being there for each other, celebrating wins, and offering support during tough times, friends strengthen the bond they share.
To sum it up, what Sarah Valdez said really hits home for a lot of us. Being a friend is one of the most rewarding things you can do, and having a friend makes our lives so much richer. The ups and downs of friendship give us a special experience that shapes who we are and how we deal with the world. As we build these relationships, we not only make our own lives better but also bring something positive to the lives of those we care about.
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Where Did They Go?
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There have been plenty of times when I felt so down that it seemed like I had no friends and nobody cared. I'd find myself sitting alone in my room, just staring at the walls, feeling totally isolated and hopeless. It was like this heavy fog was around me, cutting me off from the world. I'd think back on fun times and laughter with friends, but they felt so far away, making me believe I was really alone in all this. That loneliness can feel super suffocating, and in those moments, it seemed like no one would even notice if I just disappeared.
But that wasn't the case at all. I've actually been lucky to have a group of friends who have stuck with me through everything. Each of them, with their own unique quirks and backgrounds, has been a big part of my life. They've shown their support in all sorts of ways, whether it’s a quick text to check in, a long phone call, or a surprise visit that cheered me up. They've often reminded me that I'm not as alone as I sometimes think.
I've been blessed with a bunch of long-term friends who've been there for the good times and the bad. These friendships have grown over the years, built on trust, understanding, and shared experiences that have tied us together. Each friend brings something different to the table, making my life richer in ways I didn’t fully appreciate until I faced those tough times. They've taught me how important it is to be open and to reach out, even when it's really hard. Their constant support reminds me that real friendship goes beyond the occasional disagreements and the distance life sometimes throws at us.
Looking back on these relationships, I see how important it is to recognize the love and care around us, even when we're feeling really low. The path through loneliness can be tough, but it's key to remember there are people who genuinely care and want to be there for us. My experiences have shown me that even when I feel isolated, I'm surrounded by friends who truly want the best for me and are ready to support me on my journey to healing and self-discovery.
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Long Term Friends
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THE OG
I've had a buddy since 5th grade, and our friendship has lasted through all sorts of life changes, showing just how amazing long-term friendships can be. We kicked things off in a lively classroom full of laughter and shared adventures. Those early days really set the stage for our friendship, building trust and a strong connection that’s stuck with us over the years.
As time went on, life naturally took us on different journeys, causing us to drift apart and then reconnect more than once. Each time we got back together, it was like no time had passed; the breaks only seemed to make us understand each other better and strengthen our bond. We’ve been through a lot, like switching schools, diving into new hobbies that sometimes took us in different directions but also made our chats more interesting, and dealing with the crazy ups and downs of being teenagers. Despite all these changes, our friendship has stayed super strong, showing how deep and flexible our bond is as we’ve grown and changed.
Right now, we live in different states, which definitely brings its own challenges and tests our connection. Being so far apart can make it tough to stay as close as we were when we could just hop in the car and hang out anytime. But we've figured out how to make it work using technology to close the gap. Video calls let us see each other's faces, share laughs, and feel like we're really there together, which you just can't get from texting. We keep the conversation going with texts all day, and social media gives us little peeks into each other's lives. We get to celebrate wins, share cool stuff, and support each other when things get rough. Thanks to these modern tools, our friendship is still going strong despite the distance, showing that true connections aren't weakened by miles.
Even though we don't get to see each other as much as we'd like, our bond remains a special part of my life. It's proof that real friendships from our younger days can last through time and distance, growing into something even more meaningful as we change and grow.
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Three I met Through the Military.
I met a friend when my son was just a year old, and now he's 16, which really makes me think about how much has changed in our lives. We first crossed paths at a dinner for spouses of deployed service members, set up by a mutual friend who knew the challenges we were dealing with. Back then, we were both trying to handle the ups and downs of military life, including the emotional toll of having our partners away for long stretches.
During that dinner, we ended up at the same table, but the chat was pretty limited at first. We exchanged some polite small talk and shared a few laughs, but it wasn’t until later that we really started to connect. As weeks turned into months, we began hanging out more, finding comfort in each other's company during those tough times. Our shared experiences as military spouses created a strong bond that helped us support each other through the highs and lows of our journeys.
Over the years, even though we haven't lived near each other for about 11 years now, our friendship has only gotten stronger. We've both moved to different states, but the distance hasn't weakened our connection. In fact, it’s made us put in more effort to stay in touch. We often plan phone calls to catch up on each other’s lives, sharing stories about our kids, our jobs, and the challenges of being a military family.
Even though we're miles apart, we still make sure to visit each other whenever we can. These trips are packed with laughter, reminiscing about the good old days, and making new memories together. Whether it's a weekend escape or a longer vacation, we really cherish the time we spend together, making the most of every moment. Our friendship has grown into something that feels just like family, overcoming the barriers of distance and time.
Looking back on our journey, I'm so grateful for the bond we've built over the years. It really shows how powerful friendship is and how important it is to have someone who gets the unique challenges of military life. Every visit and chat just reinforces that true friendship knows no boundaries, and I'm thankful for the role she plays in my life and in my son's life as he grows up.
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You Again!
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During an annual tour at a different unit, I met someone really interesting who ended up playing a big role in my life. She was there for training, throwing herself into the tough demands of her job, and that’s where our paths crossed. We first met at the gym, where a lot of us service members go to relax and get active. We ended up playing volleyball together—a sport that’s all about teamwork and building camaraderie. The competitive but friendly vibe made it easy for us to connect, and that’s when I first noticed her lively personality and contagious enthusiasm.
As the days went on, we often joined a fun group from my reserve unit for meals. These get-togethers became a regular thing, full of laughs, shared stories, and new friendships. I was really drawn to her energy and spirit, loving her sense of humor and take on different topics. I later found out she thought I was a bit hard to approach at first, maybe because of my quiet nature or how I acted in social situations. Even though this was a bit of a challenge, it didn’t put me off; instead, it made me even more curious about her.
As luck would have it, I ended up transferring to her unit, which gave us a chance to hang out more often. During another annual tour in Charleston, our friendship really started to take off. The beautiful coastal city was the perfect setting for some unforgettable moments as we juggled our military duties and enjoyed some downtime. It was during this time that we got really close, sharing our experiences, challenges, and dreams. We became each other's support through the highs and lows of our careers.
Since those early days, we've kept a strong friendship that has stood the test of time and distance. Even though we live in different cities and have busy lives, we make sure to catch up every few months. Our chats are always filled with warmth and understanding as we update each other on our lives, families, and careers. Our friendship is a great source of support and encouragement, reminding us how important it is to stay connected in our fast-paced lives.
As a nod to the impact she's had on my life, I even named my daughter after her. It's a gesture that shows the deep respect and affection I have for her. This act not only expresses my appreciation for her friendship but also my hope that my daughter will have some of the amazing qualities I admire in her namesake. Our friendship keeps thriving, showing that true connections can last despite busy schedules and miles between us.
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My Ride or Die
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A buddy of mine joined the unit not long after I did. At first, I just noticed she was around, but it wasn't until we took this awesome trip to Germany together that we really clicked. That journey, with her and another friend, was a game-changer for our friendship. We spent two weeks in Germany hanging out nonstop, sharing stories, laughs, and experiences that built a strong connection.
One of the best parts of the trip was when we decided to rent a car. This gave us the freedom to explore beyond what we had originally planned. Our adventurous sides took us to Amsterdam during the lively gay pride week, which was absolutely amazing. The city was buzzing with color, music, and a joyful vibe as everyone celebrated love and acceptance. We dove into the festivities, soaking up the atmosphere and making unforgettable memories that we'll always cherish.
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Besides hanging out in Amsterdam, we also took a trip to Belgium. We dove into the local food scene and soaked up the history of the cities we explored. Each place had its own vibe and cool experiences. We even drove through Luxembourg's stunning landscapes, totally blown away by the countryside views. It was an awesome weekend packed with laughs, adventures, and a sense of togetherness that made our friendship stronger than I ever expected.
Since that epic trip, we've stayed super close. Just a few months back, I got to spend a whole weekend with her, even though she lives about 4 to 4.5 hours away. The distance has never been a big deal for us; if anything, it's only made us tighter. We've been lucky to watch each other's kids grow up, sharing the highs and lows of parenting, and having each other's backs through all sorts of life stuff. Our friendship has turned into an amazing bond that goes beyond distance, fueled by our shared adventures and the memories we keep making together.
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Yahzee!
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So, I randomly downloaded this Yahtzee game on my phone one night just to have some fun, and ended up connecting with people from all over the world. The game itself is a cool mix of luck and strategy, and as I played, one player’s username really stood out to me. We started chatting in the game, exchanging tips and strategies, and before we knew it, our conversations went beyond just playing Yahtzee.
We eventually decided to take our friendship offline and meet up in person. We picked Amsterdam for our meetup, a city famous for its beautiful canals, rich history, and lively culture. As the day got closer, I was super excited and a bit nervous. When I got to Amsterdam, I was blown away by the city’s charm—from the classic bikes to the amazing architecture everywhere.
When we finally met, the connection we had online was just as strong in real life. We spent the day exploring the city, checking out famous spots, and just wandering around. We laughed and talked for hours, learning more about each other’s lives, interests, and dreams. The chemistry was undeniable, and it felt like we’d known each other way longer than just a few weeks online.
By the end of the day, I realized how special this meeting was. It wasn’t just about meeting someone from a game; it was about making a real connection that went beyond distance and screens. After we said our goodbyes, I couldn’t shake the feeling that this was just the start of a great friendship.
With winter coming, I’m already planning my next trip to see her again. The thought of going back to Amsterdam is so exciting. I can’t wait to walk through the beautifully lit streets during the holidays, maybe sipping on some warm drinks and soaking up the festive vibes. I’m looking forward to reconnecting, sharing new experiences, and strengthening the bond we’ve started. This next trip is shaping up to be an awesome adventure, full of laughter, exploring, and the joy of friendship.
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My Forever Coffee Date
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This morning, I got to enjoy a cozy cup of coffee and a chill walk with a good friend. We've known each other for ages—we first met over ten years ago in a Bible study group that met weekly. Back then, I was really into going to church, diving deep into discussions, and connecting with people. It wasn't just about faith; it was about building lasting friendships and sharing our lives.
Even though my friend lives just 10 minutes away, our crazy schedules often keep us from hanging out as much as we'd like. Life has a funny way of pulling us in different directions with work, family, and other responsibilities. But what I love about our friendship is that we always find time for each other, no matter how busy things get.
Today, as we sipped our coffee, we reminisced about the early days of our friendship, remembering the laughs and deep talks during those Bible study sessions. We chatted about how those times shaped us and helped us grow. Our walk afterward was full of lively conversations about what's happening now in our lives, our dreams, and the challenges we're facing. It felt great to reconnect and support each other.
In a world that feels super busy, moments like these remind us how important it is to keep our friendships strong. As we walked through the neighborhood, enjoying the fresh morning air and nature, I felt grateful for our bond that has lasted through time and distance. It's these simple yet meaningful moments that make life richer and highlight the value of true friendship.
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Which one is it?
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I've got two friends with the same name, and it often leads to funny moments and a bit of confusion when we're chatting. This quirky coincidence has turned into a running joke among us, as we end up giving them nicknames or little descriptors to tell them apart. The first friend came into my life through an old buddy at a casual get-together, and she quickly became someone I could count on for support and good times. We clicked over our love for outdoor adventures like hiking and camping, and since then, we've built a strong friendship that just keeps getting better. We love looking back on our first hike together, where we swapped stories about our lives, dreams, and what we wanted out of life. It was during those chats that I realized how much she meant to me. The second friend came along thanks to the first one, who introduced us during one of our regular hangouts at the local park. It turned out to be a lucky meeting because the second friend has this warm, welcoming vibe that fits right in with our group. From the start, she had this special way of making everyone feel comfortable. Even though I've spent more time with the first friend, both of them bring something special to our friendship that I really appreciate. The first friend is super reliable and always ready to listen, while the second friend can find the humor in the everyday stuff, making our time together full of laughs. We make sure to catch up regularly, and I really look forward to these meet-ups as they give me a nice break from the daily grind.
Tomorrow, we're in for a fun day! We're kicking things off with coffee at our favorite local café—it's a cozy place known for its awesome artisanal brews and chill vibe. After our caffeine fix, we'll head out for a relaxed walk with our dogs in the nearby park. The autumn leaves make everything look so beautiful, setting the perfect scene for our chats. We've turned this into a little tradition, aiming to do it 2-3 times a month to stay connected despite our hectic lives. Sometimes, we even invite a bunch of friends, which makes it even more fun. These bigger hangouts often lead to impromptu adventures, like checking out a new restaurant or planning a game night, which makes our bonds even stronger.
But really, the heart of our group is one of the two friends who share the same name. She's the one who brings us all together, and honestly, I've never met anyone as friendly and approachable as her. She's amazing at making everyone feel included and valued, and it's no wonder she's the glue that holds our little community together. Whether it's through her thoughtful gestures like remembering everyone's birthdays or her talent for organizing get-togethers, she creates a feeling of belonging that means a lot to us. Her leadership and kindness inspire us to be better friends, and I'm so grateful to have her in my life.
Besides all the fun times we've had, my second friend and I have found out we both love reading. This common interest often sparks some great chats about the latest books we've dived into, our favorite writers, and the themes that really hit home for us. We swap book suggestions all the time, and I feel like these talks not only make our friendship stronger but also make my reading journey more exciting. We push each other to try out genres we wouldn't usually pick, which really expands our reading tastes. All in all, the connections I have with both friends, even though they share the same name, are unique and special, adding so much color and joy to my life. Every time we hang out, our bond grows stronger, and I'm excited about all the adventures and memories we'll make together down the road.
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Wahoo!
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I've been friends with someone since I was in 11th grade and she was in 10th. We met at a time when friendships really mattered and shaped who we were. We clicked quickly over shared interests and experiences, which set the stage for a strong and lasting friendship.
During my last two years of high school, we spent tons of time together, making memories I still treasure. Our weekends were all about laughter and late-night talks during endless sleepovers. We’d share stories, secrets, and dreams about the future, figuring out teenage life together. Sometimes we’d chat about everything, and other times we’d just enjoy each other's company in peaceful silence.
Besides hanging out, we got involved in various church activities that not only brought us closer but also helped us grow. Whether it was volunteering, joining youth group meetings, or going on retreats, these experiences strengthened our bond and gave us a sense of purpose and belonging. We learned a lot about compassion and community, values that have shaped who we are now.
Another big part of our friendship was our shared love for sports, especially softball. We spent many afternoons practicing, improving our skills, and cheering each other on during games. The excitement of competition and the camaraderie on the field added another layer to our relationship. I remember the adrenaline rush of important matches, the satisfaction of doing well, and the comfort of knowing we had each other's backs, both in sports and in life.
I got really close with her family, which made our friendship even stronger. They welcomed me into their home, and I loved joining them for family dinners and gatherings. I felt so much warmth and acceptance there. Her parents treated me like part of the family, and I really appreciated their kindness and support. Getting to know them helped me understand her background better and see the values her family taught her.
Even though it's been a few years since we last saw each other, I really hope she knows I'm here for her if she ever needs anything. Life may have taken us on different paths, but the bond we formed during those important years still means a lot to me. I often think about the time we spent together and the lessons we learned, and I honestly wish her all the best in whatever she does.
Besides keeping up with her, I still chat with her mom. We usually talk about good old times and catch up on what's happening in our lives. This connection keeps me grounded and reminds me how important it is to hold onto the relationships we build. I truly value these ties and hope to keep nurturing them as we both move forward in life.
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“Babysitting” Homies
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There's this one friend, my first guy friend on the list, who really means a lot to me. We've known each other since 4th or 5th grade, back when life was all about fun and games. Right now, he's in my living room teaching my eight-year-old daughter how to play the guitar. It's super special because the guitar he's using is a gift from him to her, showing just how strong our bond has been over the years. It's awesome to see him pass on his musical skills to her, just like we once shared our childhood adventures.
My friend has a younger brother, and I have a younger sister, and they’re pretty close in age to us. This made it feel like we were one big family. Our moms became friends too, leading to tons of shared experiences and family outings. We often did stuff together, which really brought us all closer. One of our favorite traditions was going to a family campground 2 to 3 times a year. Those trips were all about laughter, campfires, and stories under the stars, creating memories that still make me smile. Besides our camping trips, our moms were a big part of our daily lives. His mom would watch us in the mornings while we waited for the school bus, giving us a sense of security and friendship. In return, my mom would look after him and his brother after school, making sure we had a safe space to chill and share our day. During the summer, my mom took care of them while their parents worked. This close-knit setup let us grow up together, feeling as close as siblings.
But, like life often goes, we drifted apart for many years as we dealt with the ups and downs of growing up. Time can sometimes create distance, but fate had other plans. One day, out of the blue, we bumped into each other while shopping at Lowe’s. It was a mix of surprise and happiness, reminding us of our shared past. We swapped numbers, and since then, we've rekindled our friendship, catching up on old memories and making new ones. Our chats are easy and filled with nostalgia and laughter, as we look back on our childhood and talk about our lives now. It’s a beautiful reminder of how friendships can change and last, no matter how much time passes.
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Bus Besties
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I've got this awesome friend who means a lot to me, and we first met on the school bus when we were kids. That yellow bus was where we kicked off so many adventures and memories as we were just figuring life out. Back then, we were just a couple of kids, full of innocence and excitement, totally clueless about the world's complexities. She lived in the same neighborhood as another good buddy of mine, which made a nice little friend circle that felt safe and familiar. Whenever I crashed at his place in the mornings, I'd hop on the same bus to school, where I'd often see her. Those bus rides were all about laughs, chats, and sometimes arguing over seats, all of which became part of our childhood story. Even though we hung out in the same group, we never got super close back then. We shared jokes, swapped stories, and did group stuff, but we weren't tight growing up. Most of our hangouts were on the bus or in the neighborhood, running around, playing games, and just enjoying being kids.
As we got older and hit our teenage years, we kind of went our separate ways. Life took us down different paths, and we had all sorts of experiences that shaped who we are, each finding our own interests, making new friends, and figuring ourselves out. But life had other plans for us. It wasn't until I became a parent and my twins were little balls of energy and curiosity that we reconnected. Parenting changes you, and during that time, I started thinking about the relationships that really mattered. The bond we had as kids started to come alive again. Since we reconnected, our friendship has grown in ways I never expected. She was there to meet my youngest daughter just days after she was born, which was a really special moment marking a new chapter for us. A few years ago, she even spent Christmas with us, adding warmth and joy to our holiday fun. We had a blast decorating cookies, exchanging gifts, and enjoying festive treats. It was amazing having her as part of our family celebrations, blending our lives in a way that felt so right. We looked back on our childhood, shared family stories, and made new memories that we'll always cherish.
Lately, life has taken her to a different city, which has thrown some new challenges our way. Even though we're further apart physically, our emotional connection is as strong as ever, keeping us close despite the distance. I don’t get to see her as often as I’d like, which is definitely a change from before. But she knows I love her deeply and that I'm always here whenever she needs support or just someone to talk to. Our friendship has grown over the years, adapting to whatever life throws at us, and I truly value the bond we share, knowing that real friendships can survive time and distance. I’m excited about the future and hope we can make more memories together, no matter where life takes us. Whether it’s through the occasional visit or just catching up via text, I’m committed to keeping our friendship strong. The connection we have is proof of how powerful friendships can be, and I’m grateful for the journey we’ve been on together, from childhood to adulthood. Our friendship is a treasured part of my life, and I’m looking forward to all the possibilities ahead for both of us.
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She No Longer Works Here
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I had an appointment with a hairdresser I’d seen before, but when I got to the salon, I found out she didn’t work there anymore. I was pretty bummed because I was looking forward to seeing her. The staff mentioned there was another stylist who could help me out. After a bit of hesitation and some uncertainty, I thought, "Why not give her a shot?" It was a spur-of-the-moment decision, but I had no idea it would lead to such a great and lasting relationship that would enrich my life in unexpected ways.
Fast forward to today, and I've been going to this amazing stylist for over ten years now. Every visit has been a fun experience, and I’m so glad I made that choice back then. It might seem odd to dedicate a whole paragraph to a hairdresser, but honestly, our relationship has grown beyond the usual client-stylist thing; it’s become something really special. Even though we don’t hang out much outside the salon, the hours we’ve spent together over the years have created a real bond that feels like friendship. Each visit usually lasts from an hour and a half to three hours, depending on the hairstyle I go for. Over a decade, I’ve seen her four to five times a year, which adds up to a lot of time spent together.
It's amazing to think about all the chats we've had over the years, from joking around to deep talks about life, love, and everything in between. I've followed her from salon to salon as she's opened new spots, showing how much I trust her skills and want to keep our connection strong, no matter where she goes. We've hung out a few times outside the salon, but it's really the time in her chair that has cemented our friendship. Those conversations during my appointments have been super meaningful; they've helped me through different challenges, offering not just hair tips but also emotional support and companionship. I've shared my joys, struggles, and dreams with her, and she's shared her own stories and insights, weaving a tapestry of shared experiences that enrich our relationship.
I hope she knows I don't just see her as my "hairdresser." To me, she's so much more; she's a friend who's been there through thick and thin, listening to my stories and sharing hers. I'm really grateful I walked into that salon that day and ended up with her as my stylist. Our relationship is a beautiful reminder of how unexpected encounters can lead to lasting friendships, and I cherish every moment I get to spend with her, whether in the salon or elsewhere. I look forward to many more years of haircuts, conversations, and friendship, with each appointment being a new chapter in our ongoing story, filled with laughter, support, and the joy of connection.
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Not Just Aides
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I've had the pleasure of meeting two amazing girls while working in hospice care. They both work as aides at the company I'm with. During my time in this challenging but rewarding job, I often teamed up with them for visits, which meant we spent a lot of time together on the job. These experiences not only helped me understand our duties better but also helped us form a strong bond that went beyond just being work buddies. We've also hung out outside of work, doing fun stuff that has strengthened our friendship and given us a break from the emotional intensity of our jobs.
A common gripe among aides is how they sometimes don't get the respect they deserve from registered nurses (RNs) or Licensed Practical Nurses (LPNs), who might see them as just "aides." This attitude can be pretty discouraging because it downplays the important role aides play in patient care and the healthcare team as a whole. Aides are often the backbone of patient support, offering not just physical care but also emotional comfort and companionship. However, I've never seen them that way. To me, they're not just "aides"; they're two wonderful people with big hearts and a real passion for helping others. Their compassion and dedication shine through in everything they do, from how they interact with patients to the kindness they show to families going through tough times.
I really love hanging out with both of them and soaking in their unique views and the warmth they bring to every situation. I truly value their opinions because they offer such great insights from their experiences and interactions with patients. Their knack for connecting with people on a personal level is something that often gets overlooked in healthcare, but it's super important for building trust and making patients feel comfortable when they're at their most vulnerable. One of these amazing friends came over to celebrate Christmas with me last year, and it was such a fun time filled with laughter, warmth, and shared memories. We exchanged gifts that showed how much we care about each other, and the whole vibe was joyful and full of camaraderie. It was a great chance to strengthen our bond and enjoy the spirit of friendship during the holidays, which can sometimes feel lonely for those working in healthcare.
Even though one of them recently moved to another state, I'm thrilled to say that I'm visiting her next month in the beautiful Smoky Mountains. This trip is going to be awesome, giving us the chance to reconnect in such a stunning natural setting and make even more great memories together. The Smoky Mountains, with their lush landscapes and peaceful views, are the perfect backdrop for our reunion. I can't wait to hit the trails, swap stories, and just enjoy each other's company in a more laid-back setting. Our friendship, based on mutual respect and shared experiences, is still going strong despite the distance. I really believe that true friendships can handle time and distance, and I'm all about keeping these relationships alive even though I don't work with them anymore. I cherish them enough to keep them in my life and am grateful for the huge impact they've had on my personal and professional journey. Together, we've created a tapestry of shared experiences that will always hold a special place in my heart.
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Best Friends from Birth
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Our parents were buddies way before we came along, having hit it off during their teenage years. This long-standing friendship set the stage for us to become friends too. So, when we were born, it was pretty much a given that we’d end up spending loads of time together as we grew up. Our families would get together for all sorts of celebrations, and those gatherings turned into a treasure trove of memories filled with laughter, playdates, and shared experiences. It was like we were practically siblings, growing up side by side, sharing secrets, dreams, and all the simple joys of being kids. Backyard barbecues, birthday parties, and family vacations were the backdrop of our early years, weaving our lives together in a way that felt unbreakable.
Things changed, though, when her family decided to move to another state while we were still kids. That was a tough pill to swallow, and we both struggled with the idea of being apart. But during the summer between my ninth and tenth grades, my family decided to move closer to where she lived, hoping to keep our friendship strong and make new memories. If you’ve read my blog, “Bullies,” you might remember that in our school district, there’s just one school per city. So even though we lived in different cities and went to different schools, the distance didn’t stop us from staying close. We still spent a ton of time together during our teenage years, dealing with all the highs and lows of growing up. Sure, we weren’t perfect, and sometimes we got into a bit of trouble, but those experiences only made us stronger. Those years were packed with late-night talks, shared dreams about the future, and all the growing pains that come with being a teenager. But through it all, we had each other’s backs, learning important lessons about friendship and loyalty.
These days, she’s still living in the same city, while I’ve moved away again to start a new chapter in my life. Even though we’re miles apart, our friendship has stood the test of time. We’ve managed to keep our bond strong, even when we go months without talking. It’s comforting to know that I can just pick up the phone, call her, and we’ll fall right back into our usual chat. I’ve done this a bunch of times, and we always end up talking for hours, swapping stories, and reminiscing about the good old days. I make sure to visit her whenever I can because those times together are more than just casual hangouts; they’re chances to reconnect, relive old memories, and make new ones.
No matter how far we are or how long it’s been since we last talked, she’s still my childhood friend, practically family to me. This friendship, born in our childhood and strengthened over the years, means a lot to me. It shows how important it is to keep those connections alive, no matter what life throws our way. In the end, the love and loyalty we have go beyond distance, and I know she’ll always have a special place in my heart, reminding me of all the beautiful moments we’ve shared.
On a different note: Lately, I’ve noticed my mom has been spending more time with my friend’s family, who still live in another state, than with me. Last year, she even spent Thanksgiving with them instead of me, which left me feeling a bit left out and missing the days when we were all together as one big happy family. Honestly, I can’t even remember the last time I spent a holiday with either of my parents. It feels like forever since we had those special moments, despite my attempts to reconnect. I often find myself thinking about the warmth of those gatherings, the laughter that filled the room, and the sense of belonging. It’s a bittersweet feeling, knowing that while my friendships are thriving, I still long for that closeness with my family, reminding me how precious those connections really are.
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Nursing School
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We all have those friends who, even if we don’t talk all the time, are just a call away when we need them. They hold a special spot in our hearts because they’re the kind of connections that survive time and distance. I’ve got a few of these gems from my nursing school days, but one friend really stands out. We started our nursing journey together, diving into our studies at the same time, which built a bond through all the academic craziness and shared challenges. We tackled tough coursework, pulled all-nighters, and rode the emotional rollercoaster of nursing school, especially in our fast-paced program where everything was intense. There were times I seriously doubted we’d make it, as the pressure felt never-ending. But we pushed through, supporting each other during the toughest times, and we ended up finishing the program together, not just as nurses, but as lifelong friends.
After graduation, we went our separate ways, working at different healthcare facilities and gaining experience in various settings. I soon moved into hospice care, which needs a special mix of compassion, resilience, and strength. Knowing my friend, I had a strong feeling she’d thrive in hospice nursing too, with her natural caring nature and dedication to her patients. I could totally see her in that role, providing comfort and support to those in their most vulnerable times. She’d go all out to ensure her patients got top-notch care, not just physically, but emotionally and spiritually too. She’s the kind of caretaker who always puts others first, making sure they feel valued and understood.
Besides this amazing friend, there’s a small group who stuck by me from day one of nursing school to the end. Each one played a unique role in my journey, and I cherish them all. But this particular friend is the one I keep in touch with most, despite our hectic schedules and demanding jobs. Our chats, though not as often as I’d like, are always warm and understanding, like no time has passed. We share stories about our work, discuss challenges, and reminisce about nursing school, always finding comfort in knowing we have each other’s backs, no matter where life takes us. The bond we formed during those intense training years continues to be a source of strength and encouragement as we navigate our nursing careers together.
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Friends For Life!
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The same goes for all my friends who've stuck by me no matter what. Their loyalty means the world to me, and I'm all about giving that back however I can. I'll always be there for them, whether it's to celebrate their wins, lend an ear when things get tough, or just share a laugh over coffee. That's what real friendship is all about—an unbreakable bond built on trust, respect, and having each other's backs. We lean on each other for support, motivation, and good company, which makes life so much better. Nobody can make it alone, and that's why being isolated is such a tough punishment; it takes away those important human connections that help us thrive. Without friends, life can feel lonely and bleak, showing just how crucial these relationships are to our happiness.
While I have lots of acquaintances and other friends, these folks are my closest and longest-lasting buddies. From childhood adventures to adult hurdles, we've shared so many experiences that have created a strong bond. Our friendship isn't just about the time we've spent together but also the understanding and acceptance that's grown over the years. Each friend brings something special to the table, making my life richer in ways I never expected. Their presence is a constant reminder of how valuable true connections are, and I treasure the moments we share.
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The Unexpected Friend
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I've thought a lot about whether to talk about this "friend." Then I figured, why not? This blog is all about my views and experiences, a place where I share my life's story through words. Everyone has their own tales, and these are mine, filled with emotions, lessons, and reflections. If others can talk about me in their stories, why can't I do the same? It's annoying when someone gets mad at me for "talking badly about them" when I'm just sharing my side of the story, which is just as valid as theirs. It's fine for them to have their perspective and share it, so why can't I have mine? Well, I do have my side too, and it deserves to be heard.
More than ten years ago, this person came into my life out of nowhere, and it was a rough start. For the first five years, I really couldn't stand her. If I'd seen her get hit by a car, I might have just walked away without helping. It's not easy to admit, and I'm not proud of those feelings—I'm actually pretty ashamed of having such awful thoughts back then. But I can't deny I felt that way. My emotions were so strong that they clouded my judgment, and I couldn't see anything good in her.
If I saw her get hit by a bus today, I'd call 9-1-1 right away, rushing to help her and using all my nursing skills. It shows how much I've changed over the years. The sad thing is, she still thinks I "hate" her, but I stopped feeling that way five years ago. My journey towards forgiveness and understanding has changed my perspective, but it seems she's stuck in her own story, unable to see how I've changed.
A few years back, I let someone who was supposedly clean but down on her luck crash at my place for a few weeks. The idea was to give her some stability so she could find a job and a place to live. Things got pretty crazy, but that's a whole other story. This girl was super smart and insightful, probably because both her parents were mental health pros. I remember one evening in my backyard soon after she moved in. We were chatting about someone I called my "friend." She already knew a bit since she was my go-to for advice. But this chat was different; it was deep and eye-opening. I can't remember all the details, but she encouraged me to let go of the past and move forward. She suggested I reach out and really get to know this person, and so I did. I don't regret it; I just wish I'd done it sooner to save us both some heartache.
Since we started communicating more openly, things have been a bit of a rollercoaster. When it's good, it's great—we have awesome moments of connection and laughter. But there are times when she says things that really hurt, and it leaves me feeling lost and upset. She claims she's being a "friend," but friends don't talk like that. It's been bad enough that my husband has suggested I think about a restraining order. I've thought about it, but what would that solve? She hasn't hurt me physically; she just says things that sting. I used to snap back, which only made things worse, even though I tried to watch my words, especially over text. She, on the other hand, would just say whatever came to mind and apologize later. This happened a lot. Until recently, I always forgave her and moved on. I'd block her just long enough for things to cool down, then unblock her, and we'd pick up where we left off. But this turned into a pattern. Sometimes she'd be nice one minute and then suddenly lash out, leaving me emotionally exhausted. I once told her her mood swings gave me whiplash, and I wasn't kidding. The latest blow-up was the last straw, so I decided to keep my distance.
So today, she sent me this super long message, picking apart past stuff and my blog. I've been working hard on the blog, trying to make it better, but she wasn't happy with what I've been posting. I've always said the blog is a work in progress and changes as I do. Sometimes, I post things in the heat of the moment and then go back and edit or delete them later. She said I mentioned her name on the blog, but I honestly don't remember doing that. She even claimed to have a screenshot as proof. If I did, I'm really sorry because that was never my intention. From the start, I wanted to keep names out of it to avoid drama. I'm only human and make mistakes, especially when I'm upset (or maybe had a drink or two). I went through all my posts and didn't find any names. If it did happen, it got removed a while back. Working on the blog takes a lot of time, and I try not to let it cut into family time since I have a bunch of other things to juggle.
She often says I have certain feelings towards her, and I've told her many times to stop assuming emotions that I don't have. It really bothers me when someone says, "I know you hate me," or like she said today, "I know you completely despise my entire existence," but that's just not true. I don't hate her and haven't for the last five years, but she always thinks I do, which is tough because being accused of feelings I don't have really sucks. Honestly, I don't hate anyone. I believe everyone can change, including me, and I try to live by that in how I deal with people.
In the past, she would often make wrong assumptions about things going on in my life, seeing them through her own bitter perspective. I'd try to explain myself, though not always very well. My husband would get pretty annoyed with me for even engaging with her, telling me to steer clear of the negativity. I was still figuring things out back then, dealing with the complexities of relationships and emotions. Luckily, I haven't really gone back and forth with her much in years, realizing it usually causes more hurt than anything else.
So, just like with the long, negative message she sent me this morning, I didn't reply directly. I say "directly" because, well, this might count as my response. Given our rocky past, it would've been smart for her to steer clear of my personal blogs. Of course, she's going to find stuff she doesn't like in what I write, just like there were plenty of things she said to me before that I didn't enjoy but had to deal with. I've often mentioned in my blogs that no one is completely innocent in most negative situations. People usually prefer to point out others' faults rather than face their own. I get it, though—it's way easier to do that than to confront your own flaws. I'll admit right now that I'm not some innocent person if you look at my past. I've done some bad stuff, just like everyone has at some point. That's what learning and growing are all about. I've learned and grown a lot over the years. I never claim to be perfect, even now. We all mess up, and I get that. That's why I don't hold grudges; I don't want people to hold grudges against who I am now because of my past mistakes. We aren't the same person. If people took the time to really know me, they'd see I'm not mean or hateful. I always choose love. Was I always like this? Nope! But that's the difference between someone who learns as they grow and someone who stays stuck. We become different people as we grow. Some people get worse because of how they deal with trauma, while others get better. It's all about the perspective WE CHOOSE FOR OURSELVES. We can't change someone else's perspective if they don't want it changed. But we can change our own based on what we've learned. I choose to keep improving myself despite the negativity thrown my way. I'm not going to become someone else by being hateful anymore, no matter how much someone tries to upset me. If someone tries to rile me up just to see if it works, they're not the kind of people I want around. I wish them well, but I don't want regular negativity in my life anymore. I lived like that for 36 years, and two years ago, I promised myself I'd be done with the negativity. It hasn't been easy, but I did it anyway. I'm not lowering my standards for anyone else anymore; I'm choosing to surround myself with positivity and growth.
Every day, I'm going to try to be a better person for myself, my family, my community, and the world. We really need more people who are kind and understanding. I'm going to start this change and hope others will join me on this journey toward a more positive life. Together, we can create a place where empathy thrives, and we lift each other up instead of tearing each other down.
Will she read this post? I have no idea. Maybe she's already seen it and moved on, not realizing I included this part. At least I got to share my thoughts without texting her directly, which lets me express my feelings in a safe way. Maybe she'll read it. If she does, she might get really upset with me, which is usually how she reacts. But maybe she'll get where I'm coming from and see me in a better light, realizing I'm trying to start a conversation instead of causing more drama. I'm expecting the first reaction but hoping for the second. I guess I'll find out as time goes on and new chances for growth and understanding come up.
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Curious?
9/1/2025
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## The Complexities of Communication and Misunderstanding
Wondering if she read it? Yep, she definitely took the time to go through the message I sent, and that was a pretty big deal. Did she get upset? Oh, for sure, and you could really feel her reaction. It's fascinating how written words can stir up such strong emotions, often leading to misunderstandings that could've been avoided with clearer communication.
What really bugs me, though, isn’t just someone getting mad at me. Anger is a natural response, often coming from miscommunication or different viewpoints. What really gets to me is when people think I'm feeling things I'm not. Like when they assume I'm resentful or frustrated when I'm actually calm and chill. This kind of misunderstanding can make things way more complicated than they need to be.
It's also super annoying when people claim I said things I never did. This usually happens because of their interpretations or preconceived ideas, not from what I actually said. It's like they create a story around my words that twists my real intentions and beliefs. This can create a big gap in communication, making it tough to see eye to eye.
Plus, when people make wrong assumptions about my life and perspective, it just adds another layer of complexity to our interactions. They might jump to conclusions based on their own experiences or biases, without considering my unique point of view. This can lead to a distorted view of who I am and what I stand for, which is not only frustrating but also bad for any friendship.
If you really want to build and keep meaningful friendships, I'd strongly suggest avoiding these behaviors. Misunderstandings can mess up relationships, so it's important to approach conversations with an open mind and a willingness to listen. Taking the time to clarify intentions and feelings can prevent unnecessary conflicts and help friends understand each other better. In the end, communication is a two-way street, and both sides need to engage honestly and thoughtfully to keep their connections strong.
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To All My Friends!
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I might not dive into all the details of our friendship right now, but that definitely doesn't mean I care any less about you. Our connection is super important to me, and I truly treasure it. I've got so many people in my life that I really appreciate, each one adding something special to my journey and shaping who I am today. Every friend means a lot to me, and I often think about all the good times we've had, the laughs we've shared, and how we've been there for each other when things got tough. Our friendship, just like the ones I have with others, is a key part of my life, built on trust, understanding, and respect. Even if I don't always say it out loud, my feelings are always there, quietly guiding my thoughts and actions. Each connection shows how much love and appreciation I have for the people around me, and I want you to know you're a big part of that circle.
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Lists
Books 📕
How to Win Friends and Influence People - this was on Young Sheldon 💙
Enduring Friendship: Sticking Together in an Age of Unfriending
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Songs
So many more wonderful songs about friendships here.
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Movies/Shows/Documentaries
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Other People’s Views on Friendship
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Bible verses about Friendship
Proverbs 13:20 “Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm”
John 15:12-15 “My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. You are my friends if you do what I command. I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master’s business. Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you.”
1 Thessalonians 5:11 “Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.
Colossians 3:13 “Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.”
Proverbs 18:24 “One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.”
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Quotes
"Friendship is the hardest thing in the world to explain. It's not something you learn in school. But if you haven't learned the meaning of friendship, you really haven't learned anything," the former boxer said, according to the Muhammad Ali Center.
"The best gift anyone can give, I believe, is the gift of sharing themselves." - Oprah Winfrey
“Friendships between women, as any woman will tell you, are built of a thousand small kindnesses... swapped back and forth and over again,” - Michelle Obama
“It’s not that diamonds are a girl’s best friend, but it’s your best friends who are your diamonds.” —Gina Barreca
“There is nothing on this earth more to be prized than true friendship.” —Thomas Aquinas
“To the world you may be just one person, but to one person you may be the world.” —Dr. Suess
“Truly great friends are hard to find, difficult to leave, and impossible to forget.” —G. Randolf
“The ornament of a house is the friends who frequent it.” —Ralph Waldo Emerson
Some more wonderful quotes about friendship here.
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